Married Life

I just got married on September 27, 2008. There are so many things that people don't tell you about that would seem to be okay but are crazier than ever.

1. Why does it seem like, after you get married, he decides not to keep a clean house? Does he not realize that you are not his maid? We both work a 8 hr. shift and he gets home most of the time 5 to 6 hours before me. So, I am suppose to clean up after him.
2. Why do I have to cook his meals? He went to school to become a chief. Shouldn't he be cooking me meals?

Help, me please. I don't understand this.